26 Iyar 5772
Tonight is 42 Days to the Omer
Shabbat Mevarekhim Parashat BeHar BeHukotai
Hadlakat Nerot NY 7:50pm
Mossaei Shabbat 8:59pm
Rabbenu Tam 9:21pm
Hadlakat Nerot NY 7:50pm
Mossaei Shabbat 8:59pm
Rabbenu Tam 9:21pm
Day 41 ― Yesod of Yesod: Bonding in Bonding
Every person needs and has the capacity to bond with other people, with significant undertakings and with meaningful experiences. Do I have difficulty bonding? Is the difficulty in all areas or only in certain ones? Do I bond easily with my job, but have trouble bonding with people? Or vice versa?
Examine the reasons for not bonding. Is it because I am too critical and find fault in everything as an excuse for not bonding? Am I too locked in my own ways? Is my not bonding a result of discomfort with vulnerability? Have I been hurt in my past bonding experiences? Has my trust been abused? Is my fear of bonding a result of the deficient bonding I experienced as a child?
To cultivate your capacity to bond, even if you have valid reasons to distrust, you must remember that HaShem gave you a Divine Neshamah that is nurturing and loving and you must learn to recognize the voice within, which will allow you to experience other people's Neshamot and hearts. Then you can slowly drop your defenses when you recognize someone or something you can truly trust.
One additional point: Bonding breeds bonding. When you bond in one area of your life, it helps you bond in other areas.
Exercise for the day: Begin bonding with a new person or experience you love by committing designated time each day or week to spend together constructively.
For a Devar Torah on the Parashah about where our Berakha truly comes from, please visit www.flyingsoul-o.blogspot.com
Shabbat Shalom uMevorakh!
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MidrESHET Hayil
Every person needs and has the capacity to bond with other people, with significant undertakings and with meaningful experiences. Do I have difficulty bonding? Is the difficulty in all areas or only in certain ones? Do I bond easily with my job, but have trouble bonding with people? Or vice versa?
Examine the reasons for not bonding. Is it because I am too critical and find fault in everything as an excuse for not bonding? Am I too locked in my own ways? Is my not bonding a result of discomfort with vulnerability? Have I been hurt in my past bonding experiences? Has my trust been abused? Is my fear of bonding a result of the deficient bonding I experienced as a child?
To cultivate your capacity to bond, even if you have valid reasons to distrust, you must remember that HaShem gave you a Divine Neshamah that is nurturing and loving and you must learn to recognize the voice within, which will allow you to experience other people's Neshamot and hearts. Then you can slowly drop your defenses when you recognize someone or something you can truly trust.
One additional point: Bonding breeds bonding. When you bond in one area of your life, it helps you bond in other areas.
Exercise for the day: Begin bonding with a new person or experience you love by committing designated time each day or week to spend together constructively.
For a Devar Torah on the Parashah about where our Berakha truly comes from, please visit www.flyingsoul-o.blogspot.com
Shabbat Shalom uMevorakh!
-Smile Eshet Hayil! :D
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